A Love That Might Have Been

Published February 3, 2014 by A. Featherquill

Yesterday, JK Rowling’s confession that the love team of Ron and Hermione might have been a mistake hit news. In a few days, I will post something about this topic, but, for now, I will stick to my intended post as I owe it to one of my first readers, Claudia. She asked me to write about my opinion on why Cho and Harry did not end up together. I promised to make this topic my feature for February, the month of love, and this post is the fulfillment of that promise.

However, before I begin with my take on the matter, I want everyone to keep in mind that there may be other ways of explaining why Cho and Harry’s relationship did not work out. I have tried my best to be fair for both parties and address the different factors affecting their romance. But if I still miss other factors, please forgive the limitations of this post. Anyway, love sometimes has reasons that one cannot easily understand and it has a certain complexity that makes it often difficult to fully grasp.

To start, I will describe Harry Potter’s type of girl. This description is, of course, based only on the two relationships he had and so may not be very accurate. Yet one must not dismiss it, either. Cho and Ginny are both pretty, talented witches who are good at Quidditch.

Ginny seems to be a better player than Cho as she always beats her in games. However, based on Oliver Wood’s description of Cho, the Ravenclaw seeker plays well enough. Because Cho is a Ravenclaw means that she has a decent level intelligence, although this trait seems to have been downplayed in the books and movies. On the other hand, Ginny executes spells and hexes very well.

Nevertheless, they have differences. No two people are exactly the same, anyway. Ginny is more sassy and tough. Cho is more sentimental. Due to this attitude, Cho became very vulnerable when Cedric died and made her defend Marietta Edgecomb, who, according to the books, was the only friend who patiently comforted her as she mourned Cedric’s death.

Here lies the problem.

Cho was still in the process of mourning. For all we know, she might have been in a state of depression or melancholia – conditions that were reasonable for her to go through. Cedric did not die of an illness or a typical accident. He was mercilessly murdered and so she did not expect his death. Thus, I do not think she is, by nature, weepy and whiny. It is natural for people going through mourning, depression, or melancholia to sometimes act the way Cho did. What she needed was someone patient enough to listen to her.

However, Harry was already worrying about other serious matters. Even before knowing the whole prophecy, he knew that he would have a major role in fighting Voldemort. Also, it seemed like, if he could forget the trauma of Cedric’s death, he would. So sharing the details repeatedly might not have been what Harry needed at the moment. Harry could not afford to listen to Cho, comfort her, and wait until she is ready to devote herself to Harry alone. In her state then, Cho could not qualify as the girlfriend of the chosen one. Likewise, Harry could not take on the role of Cho’s boyfriend.

Therefore, I was not surprised when Cho went for Michael Corner because, according to Ginny, the latter tried to comfort her. Also, Ginny seemed to be more fit for the role of the chosen one’s girlfriend. Anyway, she’s tough and sassy. Moreover, she had been a victim of Voldemort before. If you may recall, she had been used by the memory of Tom Riddle in The Chamber of Secrets. Thus, more than Ron or Hermione, it was Ginny who somehow experienced an inch of the whole of Harry’s problems. She once directly suffered from Voldemort’s dark tricks and, therefore, could relate to Harry. This common experience would create a strong emotional bond between the two.

To sum things up, it seems that Cho had been expecting something Harry could not provide. On the other hand, Harry needed a strong girl at a time Cho was emotionally vulnerable. Because of the circumstances, the two did not have much opportunity or energy to warm up to each other and adjust. Having dated other boys before, Cho might have expected more from Harry. While a cheerful Cho would have allowed Harry time to adjust, the depressed version of her did not have much of that patience. Also, to be honest, Harry was not that gifted with dating skills. In the Yule Ball, he did not bother to entertain his date even just to be polite and let her enjoy the night. Finally, as there was an impending war already, Harry could not make himself an ever-present boyfriend. He was also going through something which meant, probably, that catching up on his dating skills really could not be his top priority.

Had it been in another space and time, Cho and Harry could have ended up together. But that means being in a different story.

That is my take on the matter. Again, there is a likelihood that I haven’t addressed all the factors involved in the Cho-Harry love affair. But I do hope that this post entertained everyone, especially Claudia.

Stay magical,
A. Featherquill

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